You may have a bad day and be angry, or a memory from the past may make you sadder and more melancholic than usual. You may feel frustration and see everything black or that one day you do not feel like talking to anyone. Stress, day-to-day experiences affect us, and we cannot avoid being in a bad mood on some occasions. But ... what if it's common? What happens when we always seem to be in a bad mood?
Science just proved that the bad mood of the parents affects the development of the children. We explain to what extent.
What science tells us, common sense could tell us. It is obvious: if your partner is in a bad mood ... does it not affect you? The same goes for children. If your parents are in a bad mood and they are constantly 'angry with the world', this will affect them too.
Science, however, goes further, and insists on lHow terrible it can be for children to have parents with constant bad temper. I mean, the typical 'grumpy' parents.
All this arises as a result of an investigation of psychologists from the University of Michigan (United States). Their study (based on the follow-up of more than 700 families over several years) showed that the different emotional states of parents directly affect the emotional and cognitive development of their children. Above all, it was discovered that it is the father in particular who most affects the emotional development of the children. And although the emotional states of the mother also influence, the conclusions were clear with the weight of the 'power' exercised by the parents.
But ... to what extent? What can happen to children with especially grumpy parents? The researchers found through their follow-up analysis that children with parents who are always in a bad mood, either from stress or depression, may present all these problems in the long run:
- Alterations in the levels of development.
- Low self-esteem and insecurity.
- More stress and anguish.
- Social skills problems. Difficulty relating to other children.
- A higher probability of suffering from depression.
- Greater problems controlling your emotions.
- Greater possibility of developing aggressive behaviors.
In addition, the study pointed to a 'key age' in children, an age in which the 'moodiness' of the parents affects them in a special way: between 2 and 3 years. At this age, children begin to internalize rules and limits, investigate how to get rid of them, analyze the behavior of their parents ... And perfectly capture the emotional state of their parents. Everything affects them more. Let's say that the 2 years is a reflection (on a small scale) of the adolescent period, being a time of changes and searches and personal growth (maturation). For this reason, the bad mood of parents, at this age, affects more (especially the development of language and intelligence).
When parents (in addition to the mother) are involved in the education of their children, and they do so not from a bad mood, but from positivism, children develop much more favorably. The same study that indicates that we must eradicate bad mood from our home, offers us all these advantages as an incentive. If parents are involved in the education of their children from a good mood, we will achieve that our children develop all these skills:
- They will be more stable from the emotional point of view. They will gain in emotional intelligence.
- They will have better results in school.
- They will develop greater social skills.
- They will be less aggressive and show a more sociable character.
It is clear that the way of upbringing is fundamental in the formation of the character and personality of the children. And parents should know that the way they view life is going to be crucial in their children's emotional and cognitive development. Hence, experts insist so much on positive thinking to educate children.
Remember: we will always encounter difficulties, and obstacles, and moments of "low spirits". You can turn around, sink and show your child that you have to throw in the towel or face problems from optimism (although in the end they cannot be overcome). Your child will understand that in life you always have to try everything, because sometimes you win ... and it is worth trying.
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